2015 Boyne City Kiwanis Eddie Essay: “Bruises” by Allyson Dobrowalski

Allyson Dobrowalski
Allyson Dobrowalski

“Bruises” by Allyson Dobrowalski

Allyson Dobrowalski
Allyson Dobrowalski

When you cry enough times, you get used to the stinging on your cheeks.

You don’t feel the drops.

Instead, they mix with the dampness on your face from when you started sobbing hours ago.

You get used to the screaming.

The feeling of pain ripping at your throat as you scream at him to stop the hitting.

Your throat becomes raw with the yells, the constant mantra of “Stop!” leaving your lips and filling the empty air.

You get used to the bruises.


The purples and pinks that blossom across your chest and shoulders, the reds on your cheeks and the blacks on your eyes.

Your body becomes a canvas, yet you aren’t doing the painting. You get used to the fear. The constant fear of what’s to come as he walks through that door.

But you handle it.

Because this is love, isn’t it?

Walking on eggshells every minute of your life because everything you do revolves around what that guy walking through the door is feeling today.

That’s not love.

That’s domestic violence and over four million women experience it on a day to day basis.

The bruises, the fear, the screaming and the tears. No one deserves to go through that pain.

That’s why I chose the Women’s Resource Center. To get that four million to zero.

The Women’s Resource Center is a non-profit organization that works to ensure the safety and well-being of women along with promoting equality and justice.

The Center started with a meeting at North Central Michigan College, in which a hundred women attended.

The meeting, in 1977, was held by a women by the name of Martha Drake.

This was the start to a 38-year-long organization, one not intending to close any time soon.

Just three short years after this meeting occurred, the Women’s Resource Center officially opened their shelter.

The shelters intention is to home domestically abused women and their children until they get back on their feet and can live safely.

To keep the shelter running, the Center created the Gold Mine Resale Shop, a shop still present today.

The sales and money from this shop helped keep the shelter running and is still running to this very day, housing 140 victims in the 2013-2014 fiscal year.

The Northern Michigan Center is currently based in Petoskey, MI, with the shelter being located there as well.

However, the main branch is located in Traverse City.

The Northern Michigan Center is more tailored towards the families in Antrim, Charlevoix, Cheboygan, Emmet and Otsego counties.

The Northern Michigan Women’s Resource Center has branched out to providing more services to different victims than just abuse victims.

They also handle rape and sexual assault cases, offer counseling, host a children education program, and most importantly, they work to educate men on this issue and help prevent it.

They’ve worked to create a safe haven for any woman of abuse to come and seek help.

This to me is more than just giving money to a charity.

This is preventing another woman from joining those four million others in pain and suffering.

While I may not have been personally affected by this, I don’t feel like I need to, to know that this is wrong.

Domestic Violence is wrong.

It’s more than just the bruises.

It’s the control, the emotional side, and the psychological side that causes this appalling issue to have become something that creates so much pain on so many different spectrums.

Abuse is more than just the surface and the Women’s Resource Center is doing everything in their power to help all sides of Domestic abuse, the surface and what is underneath.

I’m giving to this charity to help one more.

To help the woman that’s hanging on by a thread and her children, who are looking into the eyes of what should be a father but is really an abuser.

If something as simple as putting words on a paper could save another person from a lifetime of pain and suffering then that’s all I could ever ask for.

“Be the change you want to see in the world.”

My change? Getting that 4,000,000 to 0.